As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.
Today’s Idea:
All relationships require effort. Healthy relationships get better with effort. Unhealthy relationships need ongoing effort just to stay the same.
Sometimes, it can be the perpetual desire to mend or turn around things that are breaking them in the first place.
Today’s Suggestion:
Think back to your ex-relationship. Was it unhealthy? If so, what was the pattern? What was getting broken repeatedly, and were you trying to fix it repeatedly?
If you notice you were the “fixer” — and perhaps still are — drop the desire to fix another person or their problems. Simply don’t act on the urge the next time it comes up. Take a deep breath and let it go instead.
This may feel cold or heartless at first, but simply allow the people in your life to take responsibility for their own problems. Then see what happens.
Today’s Resource:
18 Reasons Why Your Relationship Failed — being a “fixer” is just one of many vital reasons relationships don’t work out. To discover the other ones and learn how to improve your chances of making your next relationship last, read this article.
New This Week:
New Articles:
- Should I Contact My Ex Who Dumped Me? (Spoiler: Hell No!) (most popular this week).
- How To Find And Sustain Motivation After A Breakup.
New Videos:
- 10 Reasons Your Ex Checking Up On You And What To Do Next (most popular this week).
- The Two Big Schools Of Ex-Back Advice (Choose Wisely).
As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. While I can’t respond to everyone, I do read everything.
Until next time,
Max Jancar
Get a weekly email with one idea, suggestion, and resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love (with your ex or someone new).