Hi. I’m Max. I’m a blogger, author, entrepreneur, and certified CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) practitioner. I write advice on getting back with an ex that is unconventional, brutally honest, and based on radical self-improvement and recovery — a.k.a., ex-back advice that doesn’t suck.
Till now, I have been published and/or featured in The Good Man Project, Thrive Global and a handful of Medium Publications. Most notably, BeYourself, Illumination, Better Advice, The Writers Blokke, and Better Humans.
I started my biz early 2017 as a pickup and dating coach for men. I also began blogging at that time. In fact, my previous blog (relationshipmasterymj.com) hosted over 50 long-form articles and two downloadable booklets. (Proof)
In late 2017, I wrote my first 300+ page book on pickup, dating, and self-development. However, I removed this book from Amazon due to lousy writing and immature ideas, but here is the link if you still wish to go over it.
In 2019, I expanded my niche and made my way into the marriage/relationship recovery niche. There, I helped guys (and later also women) re-attract their uninterested partners and ex-partners.
At this point, I also wrote another book that taught people how to make their relationships last. This one, you can still find on Amazon.
In late 2019 or around early 2020, I realized that my brand was too generic, which limited my growth. And my articles were a mix of mostly below-average and average pieces. Therefore, I rebranded, deleted most of my old works, and started from square one.
But this time, I had a new, more unique vision for my website – a vision you’re seeing unfold at this very moment. Let’s explore how it might benefit you.
How My Work Will Benefit you
I’ve tailored all the content on my website to the people who recently came out of a breakup and who want to do one of two things: get over their ex or get them back. If there’s one way to describe my site, it’s unconventional. It teaches radically new ways of dealing with breakups.
For those wanting to get over an ex: My work teaches an approach devoid of chasing happiness, eliminating or avoiding negative emotions, and trying to make sense of post-breakup chaos. Instead, it focuses on helping you get over your ex by chasing meaning, growing and learning from negative emotions, and accepting uncertainty and emotional turmoil.
For those wanting to get back with an ex: My work teaches an approach devoid of games, hacks, tricks, deceit, and fake behavior. Instead, it focuses on helping you re-attract your ex through honesty, vulnerability, and self-improvement — the things that create real, permanent, and exigent change.
4 ways my work differs from my competitors
Below are four ways my work/website differs from all the other breakup advice and “get your ex back” resources:
1. On Breakup Pain
Don’t avoid your post-breakup grief, hurt, and other negative emotions. Instead, accept, embrace and learn from them. They make you a more resilient and wiser person.
2. On Chasing Happiness After A Breakup
Let go of trying to be happy after your breakup. Meaning is more important than happiness. So, find something worth suffering for (i.e., a life purpose) despite your breakup.
3. On Scams And Scammers
Sadly, most people in the breakup advice world are scammers, snake oil salesmen, and fake gurus. I try my best to help you become aware of them and not waste money on their dodgy products.
4. On Getting Your Ex Back
Getting your ex back with jealousy tactics, ninja tricks, or manipulative gimmicks doesn’t work. It’s a blatant lie. Most of the time, those things push your ex further away. If you really want the best chances to get an ex back (and keep them), focus on honesty, vulnerability, and self-improvement.
If these ideas appeal to you, then head to my Best Articles where you can get a general grasp of what this site is about.
When I was 16, my first long-term girlfriend dumped me due to my neediness. Then, in the span of a few months, it got broken up a few more times for the same reason. Naturally, I only got more emotionally fucked up as a result. I began to fester feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness, crippling anxiety, narcissism, and above all, codependency.
Oh yeah, did I mentioned I spent months chasing after my ex-girlfriends and trying to get them back? Yeah… I was that guy. A lot of readers ask me nowadays what’s my gripe with the breakup/ex-back gurus like Brad Browning, Chris Seiter, Clay Andrews, WMXA and so forth. Well… I bought all of their “get your ex back ” products.
First, none of them worked. Second, they’re filled with the most scummy and unethical ways of re-attracting an ex. And finally, they were marketed in the scummiest and most unethical ways you can imagine. For these reasons, I obviously started hating the gurus and made it a part of my life’s mission to expose them and call them out on their bullshit.
Anyhow, after years of self-improvement and therapy, I got better despite my heaps of heartbreaks, and people started noticing my improved mood and confidence. They also started noticing my thriving love life, which followed soon after my recovery. Now, some of these people — mostly men at the start — asked me to help them get the same results. That’s where it all began for me.
Until now, I wrote three full books and helped numerous men and women from all around the world with their relationships. Specifically, I’ve helped people:
- Move on from a breakup.
- Get back with an ex.
- Find love.
- Get laid.
- Turn around a dying relationship.
So yeah, I’ve been all over the place. However, even though I know a lot about dating, relationships, breakups, and whatnot, I want to stress one crucial point: I am NOT your guru.
I’m not going to go around like every other online entrepreneur and declare how I’m some breakup or love expert. I’m really not. I’m just like you. I poop, I sleep in, and I fuck things up all the time. I don’t know everything, and I’m still learning to this day.
On a final note, most of the concepts and ideas I write about aren’t my own. They are simply pieces of information I’ve discovered after hours of reading and researching. I just try to simplify what I’ve learned and then communicate the information in an easy-to-understand way.