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Does My Ex Miss Me? (Hint: Yes, But It’s Not Like It Matters)

By Max Jancar | Updated: May 16, 2022 | 9 Minute Read | Re-Attraction

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Many people want to know whether or not their ex misses them after their breakup. And so they keep asking me questions about it. Mainly questions like, “Does my ex miss me right now?” “Will they miss me if I walk away?” “Will they miss me if I give them space?” or “Will they miss me if I stop talking to them.”

Regardless of the question, the answer is yes. Your ex does miss you. And if not, they likely will start sooner or later. But you’ve got to respect their decision to break up and walk away for that to happen, especially if they asked for space or decided to pull the plug. You’ve got to let them go to get them back.

Now, there are exceptions to this. Your ex probably won’t miss you if your relationship was short (1-3 months), a rebound, or strewn with toxicity (i.e., cheating, lying, abuse). That said, walking away and letting them go still gives you the best chance of making them miss you.

But here’s the catch: your ex missing you doesn’t really matter.

Don’t get me wrong. Your ex must miss you for them to want to get back together with you. But you’ve got to grasp a subtle distinction here: while your ex missing you is what kickstarts the entire process of getting them back, it doesn’t necessarily mean they want to get back together with you. After all, many people miss their exes yet still want nothing to do with them.

Keep this in mind while reading this article, in which I’ll answer every common question people have about whether or not their ex misses them.

Does My Ex Miss Me Like I Miss Them?

It depends on many factors and is a bitch to figure out, but here are some guideposts. Your ex is more likely to miss you as you miss them if:

There’s also a funny gender debate that ties into this topic. Women are, on average, more inclined to thinking less favorably about their exes than men. And because of this, they, on average, move on faster than them. (1) (2)

For How Long After The Breakup Will My Ex Miss Me?

Most couples stop missing each other after six to eight months following their breakup. Still, this rule has many exceptions and is contingent on the same confusing factors I’ve outlined a paragraph prior — as well as what your ex is doing with their life and where they’re taking it.

To give you a few examples:

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What Are The Signs My Ex Misses Me?

The signs your ex misses you draw many similarities with those indicating an ex will eventually come back. Here are the ten most glaring ones, listed in no particular order. The more of them you notice, the more likely your ex misses you.

1. They reach out. Assuming you’re in no contact, if your ex reaches out for any reason unrelated to logistics (children, pets, living arrangements, work, shared possessions, etc.), there’s a good chance they miss you.

2. They’re excited to hear from you. There’s a lot you can pick up from someone’s tone. If your ex is eager to talk to you, it’s a sign that they miss you. But if they’re cold and detached and you can see that you’re a nuisance to them, it’s a sign they don’t.

3. They’re interested in meeting up. Self-explanatory. It’s a massive sign your ex misses you. If you’d like to learn how to date them properly, check the method I outlined in this article.

4. They’re engaged in your social media. Meaning they like and comment on it, tag you in posts, and keep opening your stories. Now, this isn’t the finest indicator your ex misses you, so always factor in other signs on this list.

5. They drunk text/call you. I wouldn’t think much about it if it happened only once or twice. But if it keeps happening day-in, day-out, I’d take the sign very seriously.

6. They keep up with your friends and family. Meaning, your ex asks them how you’re doing, what you’re doing, and perhaps even if you’re seeing anyone else. It’s a solid sign they miss you.

7. They keep bumping into you. Meaning, your ex goes to venues where they could “accidentally” bump into you. So if you keep seeing them wherever you go, know that it may not be a coincidence but a sign they miss you.

8. They propose being friends with benefits. Whether they suggest this directly or indirectly (i.e., they tell you something like, “we’re not getting back together” or “you’re not right for me,” but then proceed to fuck you), it’s a sign your ex misses you.

9. They’re forcing a friendship. An obvious sign your ex misses you. But if they propose it only once, they’re probably just letting you down gently (note: don’t accept friendship if you want your ex back).

10. They’re flaunting their new partner. Whether it’s a rebound or not, if they’re flaunting, it’s usually a sign they miss you. Otherwise, why would they try to provoke you? If they didn’t feel anything for you anymore, they’d act as if you don’t exist.

(Optional) Top Questions About An Ex Missing You

Does My Ex Miss Me If They’re Dating Someone New?

Probably. Whether your ex’s new date is a fling, fuckbuddy, a rebound, or a serious partner, there’s a good chance they still miss you. Especially if it wasn’t long since your breakup. Yet, I must remind you of the underlying point of this article again: your ex missing you doesn’t mean they want you back. And if they found someone else, it’s a surefire sign that they don’t want to rekindle things with you.

Does My Ex Miss Me More When I’m In No Contact?

Compared to you repeatedly reaching out like little bitch? Yes. 100%. No contact is the best way to get your ex to miss you. For those uninitiated, it’s the equivalent of walking away and never looking back — at least the version of no contact I teach. The reason it’s so effective at getting your ex to miss you is because it turns your entire relational dynamic in your favor and buys you time in which you can learn from your breakup, better yourself, and become more attractive.

What If My Ex Says They Don’t Feel Anything Towards Me?

Believe them. If your ex did miss you, they wouldn’t tell you the opposite. Why? Nine out of ten times, because you’re not giving them enough space. So they can’t feel any separation anxiety and taste the freedom they crave. Instead, they get frustrated and pissed off due to your inability to stay the fuck away from them.

Can My Ex Miss Me But Not Contact Me?

Yes. It means that they simply don’t miss you enough to make time for you. If you continue to maintain no contact, you’ll raise your chances in getting them to reach out. So stick to it. The less attached you get to getting back with your ex, the more likely it is that it will happen.

What Are The Signs My Ex Is Over Me (And Done Missing Me)?

Communication dwindles, interactions become less exciting, frequent, and more awkward, stilted, and cold, your ex blocks you, removes you from their social media, keeps giving excuses when you ask them out, tells you to move on, etc. For an in-depth guide on the signs your ex is done missing you, refer to this article.

Can I Find Out Exactly When My Ex Will Start To Miss Me?

No. Your ex will start to miss you when they start to miss you. You can’t foresee these things. Sometimes it’ll be as soon as you go no contact. Other times it’ll take them months or even years. Relax and focus on yourself.

How can I make my ex miss me?

There are many ways you can make your ex miss and regret breaking up with you. For example, I wrote about them in this, this, and this article.

But, essentially, it boils down to a) improving yourself (raising self-esteem, self-worth, overcoming neediness, investing in your identity and lifestyle, learning from your breakup, etc.), and b) walking away and never looking back (going no contact, letting your ex go, and behaving as if you’ll never see them again).

It’s really that simple.

And while you could try making your ex jealous by taking photos with people of the opposite sex, pretending you’re fine, or sending them one of those stupid “good reminder texts,” we both know that those things don’t work and just aren’t a healthy way of mending a relationship. In fact, it’s quite a sad sight to behold.

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