How To Conquer Jealousy When Your Ex Starts Dating Again
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How To Conquer Jealousy When Your Ex Starts Dating Again

By Max Jancar | Published: July 8, 2024 | 2 Minute Read

As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.

Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.


Today’s Idea:

Your ex is free to do whatever they want with whoever they want. Not only that, they likely want to experience all kinds of sexual endeavors now that they have a chance. And they probably will.

I know it doesn’t feel good to hear this, but it’s the reality. You can ignore it, but you can’t ignore its consequences.

So, while a pain in the ass to grapple with, jealousy is typically a valid emotion. What’s more, most people feel it post-breakup, especially when the thought of their ex with someone else creeps in.

Today’s Suggestion:

Rather than suppressing your jealousy the next time you feel it, acknowledge and validate it instead. This means telling yourself it’s okay to feel it and giving yourself permission to experience the emotion without judgment.

Once you achieve this, work on responding to your jealousy in healthier ways. For example, instead of acting on it by stalking your ex or trying to control them, find a constructive outlet for your feelings, like talking to a friend, journaling, or engaging in a favorite hobby.

Today’s Resource:

How To Deal With Jealousy After A Breakup — discover eight powerful ways to overcome ex-related jealousy. Whether you’re feeling envious because they actually are dating other people or are merely considering dating someone new, these strategies will help.

New This Week:

Article: The Holy Trinity Of Breakup Recovery — a recent update of an older article that goes over three breakup recovery methods that I’ve seen work great for most people: meditation, journaling, and therapy. Give it a read.

Pod-Episode: Attachment Theory And How It Impacts Breakups And Relationships — an episode where we explore how this theory can explain why your past relationship failed and based on it, provide practical solutions to overcome any current relational struggles.


As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. While I can’t respond to everyone, I do read everything.

Until next time,

Max Jancar

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