As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition.
Today’s Idea:
Your ex is not special. This might sound harsh, but it’s crucial to demystify this common post-breakup illusion. Many of us elevate our exes to a near-mythical status, mistakenly believing they possess qualities that no one else could possibly match.
However, like everyone else, they have their flaws, quirks, and less-than-ideal traits. It’s time to take them off that pedestal and see them for who they really are: just another human being.
Today’s Suggestion:
Write down all the reasons you believe your ex is the only one for you, or why you think they were so perfect. Next to each reason, challenge these beliefs with realistic counterpoints.
For example, if you wrote, “My ex is special because they understood me like no one else,” counter with, “Is it possible that someone else could understand me as well, if not better?”
By the end of this exercise, you will likely see that many of your reasons are based on idealized memories rather than facts.
Today’s Resource:
Your Ex Is Not Special (No One Is) — a short and pithy motivational piece with a simple goal: to shake you up a bit so you can faster realize your ex truly isn’t special and that you can replace them with someone just as well suited, if not better.
New This Week:
New articles:
New videos:
- No, Your Ex Didn’t Just “Move On Quickly” (most popular this week).
- 7 Ways To Stop Feeling Lonely After A Breakup.
- 16 Striking Signs Your Ex Will Never Come Back.
- 8 Massive Signs Your Ex Just Wants To Sleep With You.
As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. While I can’t respond to everyone, I do read everything.
Until next time,
Max Jancar
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