Do Hope For Your Ex's Return (Just Don't Expect It)

Do Hope For Your Ex’s Return (Just Don’t Expect It)

By Max Jancar | Published: March 11, 2024 | 2 Minute Read

As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.

Here’s this week’s edition.

Today’s Idea:

There’s this myth floating around the ex-back space that you should let go of all hope of getting back together with your ex. Now I understand the logic behind this idea. In theory, losing hope in mending a relationship could make you behave more calmly and, therefore, more attractively.

However, just cutting hope’s life support is more or less psychologically impossible. We just aren’t wired to be able to do it. Therefore, I propose a, in my opinion, better alternative: keep your hope, just release any expectations tied around reconciliation.

Today’s Suggestion:

The next time you find yourself talking to yourself about how you expect re-attraction to go a certain, positive way, try rephrasing that self-talk to begin with, “I hope.”

For example, the next time you tell yourself, “I’ll get my ex back, I just need more time,” reframe that phrase into something like, “I hope I get my ex back. Maybe I just need more time.”

Today’s Resource:

12 Simple Habits That Accelerate Re-Attraction — an article listing what I deem are the most effective habits for getting back with an ex. Their true beauty? They blaze new trails beyond simple re-attraction. They spill into and improve virtually every part of your life. Enjoy the read.

New This Week:

Book updates — I’ve gone ahead and added about 10-20 pages of additional content to my ex-back book, From The Inside Out. If you like my blog and these letters I send out weekly, go check out my book. You’ll fucking love it.

Course updates — I’ve also added two new comprehensive video lessons to my Radical Recovery Course. One helps with improving self-esteem, and the other addresses post-breakup dating. Fun stuff!

As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. While I can’t respond to everyone, I do read everything.

Until next time,

Max Jancar

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