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How To Identify A Healthy Relationship

How To Identify A Healthy Relationship

Is your rekindled relationship healthy or not? Get your answer here, with this eye-opening guide to cultivating healthy relationships.

Covert Contracts: Subtle Saboteurs Of Re-Attraction

Covert Contracts: Subtle Saboteurs Of Re-Attraction

I’ve noticed lots of people making unconscious covert contracts with their exes, and it’s a big problem that I want to shed light on.

18 Reasons Why Your Relationship Failed

18 Reasons Why Your Relationship Failed

Breaking up hurts, but why does it happen? Why did your relationship fail in the first place? Discover 18 reasons in this article.

I Miss My Ex (Why You Miss Them And How To Stop)

I Miss My Ex (Why You Miss Them And How To Stop)

Learn why you miss your ex and 7 practical ways to stop missing them to finally feel at peace and in control of your life.

7 Ways To Feel Happy After A Breakup

7 Ways To Feel Happy After A Breakup

Learn the science-based truth on what happiness is, what it isn't, and 7 ways on how to be happy after a breakup, even when it's difficult.

Re-Attraction Placebos

Re-Attraction Placebos

Most "re-attraction science" techniques are logical placebos for creating emotional realities; ways for people to cope with emotional issues.

Does My Ex Miss Me? (Hint: Yes, But It’s Not Like It Matters)

Does My Ex Miss Me? (Hint: Yes, But It’s Not Like It Matters)

If you're wondering "does my ex miss me?" the answer is yes. But does them missing you make it any easier to get them back? Not really.

The Art Of Polarization

The Art Of Polarization

Polarization is a concept from pickup and dating literature you can use to get your ex back in a more natural, stress-free, and mature way.

12 Signs You Had A Toxic Relationship With Your Ex

12 Signs You Had A Toxic Relationship With Your Ex

Were you in a toxic relationship or are your biases tricking you? Get your answer here, with the 12 warning signs of a toxic relationship.

Vulnerability: The Key To Rekindling Your Relationship

Vulnerability: The Key To Rekindling Your Relationship

True vulnerability is key when you're trying to get back with your ex. Learn what it is and what it can and can't do for you.

My Ex Left Me For Someone Else (Proven Tips; Painful Truths)

My Ex Left Me For Someone Else (Proven Tips; Painful Truths)

Has your ex left you for someone else? Here are 10 tips on how to deal with it and 4 painful truths about the whole thing.

Why Your Ex Moved On Quickly And How To Respond

Why Your Ex Moved On Quickly And How To Respond

Why did your ex move on so fast? What does it mean? How can you best respond? Here's everything you need to know if your ex moved on quickly.

18 Biggest Ex-Back Lessons I’ve Learned in Five Years

18 Biggest Ex-Back Lessons I’ve Learned in Five Years

Here are 18 of the biggest lessons I've learned from helping people (and myself one time) get their ex back for over five years now.

5 Tenets Of A Negative Self-Help

5 Tenets Of A Negative Self-Help

The post that changed my life.

A Provocative Perspective On Why You Can’t Let Your Ex Go

A Provocative Perspective On Why You Can’t Let Your Ex Go

Perhaps the reason you can't let go of your ex is because you're scared and selfish — the same way I was years ago.

8 Ways To Overcome Anger After A Breakup

8 Ways To Overcome Anger After A Breakup

It’s normal to feel angry after a breakup. It's a key stage to recovery. Here are 8 ways to deal with your anger after a breakup effectively.

“Be yourself” Is Terrible Advice

“Be yourself” Is Terrible Advice

Be yourself is terrible advice for most. What you should do instead is work toward becoming the best, most attractive person you can be.

6 Ways To Stop Feeling Lonely After A Breakup

6 Ways To Stop Feeling Lonely After A Breakup

Discover 6 proven principles on how to stop feeling lonely after a breakup and start enjoying your solitude so you can recover faster.

How To Overcome Anxiety When Re-Attracting An Ex

How To Overcome Anxiety When Re-Attracting An Ex

Learn what anxiety is, where it comes from, how it screws you over, and how to overcome it so you can be more confident and less fearful.

Decomplicating Ex-Back Advice

Decomplicating Ex-Back Advice

Learn how getting an ex back is often purposefully drenched in artificial complexity and 7 powerful ways to decomplicate the whole thing.

How To Be Insanely Productive Despite A Breakup

How To Be Insanely Productive Despite A Breakup

A breakup will stifle your productivity. But there are certain universal and tried and tested principles you can follow to boost it.

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? (The Dos And Don’ts)

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? (The Dos And Don’ts)

Few relationship questions are as polarizing as if you can be friends with an ex after a breakup. Well, here's my best attempt at answering.

A Realist’s Guide To Finding A Life Purpose

A Realist’s Guide To Finding A Life Purpose

A life purpose is one of the bigger determinants of a person's attractiveness, resilience, and happiness. Here's my way of finding it.

Do You Have the Right Attitude?

Do You Have the Right Attitude?

Having a good attitude is crucial when trying to get an ex back. Here's what it looks like, what it doesn't look like, and how to develop it.

How To Deal With Jealousy After A Breakup

How To Deal With Jealousy After A Breakup

Jealousy is something most people who want their ex back feel. And it's a pretty valid feeling to have. Learn 8 ways to overcome it.

The Social Media Detox

The Social Media Detox

Learn how a social media detox can improve your well-being, increase your confidence, and help you get over your breakup.

You Don’t Deserve Shit

You Don’t Deserve Shit

You don’t necessarily deserve anything after your breakup, good or bad. Instead, here’s a simpler view on breakups to adopt.

5 Stages Of Getting Back Together With An Ex

5 Stages Of Getting Back Together With An Ex

Learn the 5 stages of getting back together with your ex and how to leverage them to mend your relationship faster.

How “Fake It Until You Make It” Can Backfire

How “Fake It Until You Make It” Can Backfire

Learn how the popular advice of "fake it until you make it" can backfire when you're trying to get your ex back.

How To Love Yourself After A Breakup (6 Keys To Self-Love)

How To Love Yourself After A Breakup (6 Keys To Self-Love)

Discover 6 practical, no-fluff ways on how to love yourself after your breakup and accelerate your recovery.

How To Handle Your Ex Blocking You On Everything

How To Handle Your Ex Blocking You On Everything

Just realised, "my ex blocked me on everything"? Unsure what to do? How to get unblocked? Is it even worth trying? Let's investigate.

5 Stages Of A Rebound Relationship (And 3 Truth Bombs)

5 Stages Of A Rebound Relationship (And 3 Truth Bombs)

Learn all about the 5 stages of a rebound relationship, rebound psychology, and the 3 ways everyone misunderstands them.

12 Simple Habits That Accelerate Re-Attraction

12 Simple Habits That Accelerate Re-Attraction

A list of what I deem are the most effective re-attraction habits — habits that help you get back with your ex sooner.

Your Ex Is Not Your Therapist

Your Ex Is Not Your Therapist

Your ex is not your therapist, nor should they be. And if you make them one, you'll be rejected in no time and never get them back.

Top 16 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

Top 16 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

Here are 16 signs your ex is pretending to be over you, even though they secretly want you back and how to respond appropriately.

The Staggering Bullshit Of The “Get Your Ex Back” Gurus

The Staggering Bullshit Of The “Get Your Ex Back” Gurus

Learn the truth about the "how to get your ex back" gurus: how they sell fake miracle cures, exploit vulnerabilities, and give shoddy advice.

Fuck The Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship

Fuck The Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship

Learn why the signs your ex is in a rebound relationship may not mean anything and what you should do instead of focusing on them.

4 Reasons Why Going Back To Your Ex Is A Terrible Idea

4 Reasons Why Going Back To Your Ex Is A Terrible Idea

I know you want to get go back to your ex and rekindle your relationship. Well, you probably shouldn't. And here are 4 solid reasons why.

Fuck Indifference (Re-Attract Your Ex With This Instead)

Fuck Indifference (Re-Attract Your Ex With This Instead)

The idea that you need to be indifferent toward your ex to get them back is not only impossible but even toxic. Here's what to do instead.

How To Forgive Your Ex When You Can’t Forget Them

How To Forgive Your Ex When You Can’t Forget Them

You probably won’t be able to forget their wrongs committed against you anytime soon. But what you can do is forgive your ex. Here’s how.

Cheerful Nihilism

Cheerful Nihilism

My personal philosophy. I'm happier and more resilient than ever because of it. Maybe you will get the same results if you adopt it.

The Holy Trinity Of Breakup Recovery

The Holy Trinity Of Breakup Recovery

Learn three powerful healing modalities that will turbocharge your breakup recovery and help you feel great again faster than anything else.

48 Steps To Survive Even The Worst Breakups

48 Steps To Survive Even The Worst Breakups

Follow the steps in this article and you'll feel better about your breakup, regardless of the amount of suffering it brings.

On Taking Responsibility For Your Breakup

On Taking Responsibility For Your Breakup

Most people never take responsibility for their breakup, and so they suffer perpetually. Learn how to take it, and break the cycle.

How A Rebound Relationship Can Save Your Life

How A Rebound Relationship Can Save Your Life

A rebound relationship is not always a bad thing. Usually, it is a great thing — in the short and long term, and no matter how it unravels.

The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No

The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No

Think about this: why ever mend a relationship with someone who is unable, unwilling, or unenthusiastic to help you mend it as well?

15 Biases That Make You Overestimate Your Ex’s Attraction

15 Biases That Make You Overestimate Your Ex’s Attraction

Here are 15 biases that make you overestimate your ex’s overall attraction and make you want to rekindle things when you perhaps shouldn't.

How To Find Yourself After A Breakup

How To Find Yourself After A Breakup

Learn three ways you can find yourself after a breakup and get clear on exactly who you are, what you value, and how to move forward.

A Marvellous Misadventure Of The Worlds Biggest Simp

A Marvellous Misadventure Of The Worlds Biggest Simp

Part warning, part soothing balm: a short story about the ridiculous lengths some people go when trying to rekindle their relationship.

10 Tips For Making Better Post-Breakup Decisions

10 Tips For Making Better Post-Breakup Decisions

Making good post-breakup decisions is a skill you can practice and develop. Here are ten tips for making better ones.

Death To Chasing: Let Go Of Your Ex To Get Them Back

Death To Chasing: Let Go Of Your Ex To Get Them Back

Chasing your ex doesn't make them come back. It only pushes them farther away. To get them back, you first have to let them go.

Sit The Fuck Down And Be Grateful

Sit The Fuck Down And Be Grateful

Breakups suck, but there are many worse things that could happen to you. So be grateful a breakup is the only thing on your plate.

Don’t Take The Stages Of Anything Too Seriously

Don’t Take The Stages Of Anything Too Seriously

Learn five reasons why you should always treat breakup-related psychological stages as nothing more than a personality test or horoscope.

How To Never Get Over A Breakup

How To Never Get Over A Breakup

Learn how to never get over a breakup and become a perpetually heartbroken and miserable person. It's easy if you put your mind to it!

8 Types of Breakups (And How To Navigate Each One)

8 Types of Breakups (And How To Navigate Each One)

Angry breakup, cheating breakup, sudden breakup, and more. Discover 8 most common types of breakups and learn to navigate each one.

The Phantom Ex And The Soulmate

The Phantom Ex And The Soulmate

Learn about the Phantom Ex and Soulmate Syndromes and how to overcome them so you don't remain forever heartbroken and disappointed in love.

5 Breakup Fallacies That Subtly Screw You Over

5 Breakup Fallacies That Subtly Screw You Over

Discover 5 fallacies that kill relationships and learn how to manage them to boost your chances of cultivating lasting love with someone.

I Dream About My Ex Every Night (Why And How To Stop)

I Dream About My Ex Every Night (Why And How To Stop)

Learn why you dream about your ex every night, what does it mean, and how to stop dreaming about them so you can function normally again.

Should I Contact My Ex Who Dumped Me? (Spoiler: Hell No)

Should I Contact My Ex Who Dumped Me? (Spoiler: Hell No)

should I contact my ex who dumped me? In short, no. You probably shouldn't reach out. And here's why and what to do instead.

Attachment Theory And How It Affects Relationships

Attachment Theory And How It Affects Relationships

Learn how attachment theory influences relationships and your breakup experience and how to leverage it to recover and grow faster.

6 Healthy Relationship Quirks Most People Think Are Toxic

6 Healthy Relationship Quirks Most People Think Are Toxic

It could be our thinking about our relationship that’s flawed, and not necessarily the relationship itself.

How To Get Over Your Ex And Move On With Your Life

How To Get Over Your Ex And Move On With Your Life

Getting over your ex has a lot more to do with overcoming the looming existential crisis that comes post-breakup than anything else.

5 Harsh Truths No One Tells You About Getting An Ex Back

5 Harsh Truths No One Tells You About Getting An Ex Back

Here are six simple yet harsh truths about getting an ex back that no one tells you about. For the most part, because they don't sell.

Why Is My Ex Checking Up On Me? (10 Simple Explanations)

Why Is My Ex Checking Up On Me? (10 Simple Explanations)

If your ex is checking up on you, they're likely doing it for one of these reasons. Here's how to deal with them and mend your relationship.

The Inferiority Gap

The Inferiority Gap

Learn what really makes someone attractive and capable of permanently getting back together with their ex and what sabotages their efforts.

6 Solutions For When You Can’t Sleep After A Breakup

6 Solutions For When You Can’t Sleep After A Breakup

Discover 6 powerful solutions for when you can't sleep after a breakup straight from a retired biohacker and sleep and productivity nerd.

Your Ex Is Not Special (No One Is)

Your Ex Is Not Special (No One Is)

Your ex is not special. The faster you get that drilled into your mind, the easier it will be to let them go, rebuild your life, and move on.

Radical Acceptance In The Face Of Adversity

Radical Acceptance In The Face Of Adversity

The more you try to rid yourself of suffering, the more powerful it grows. The only way out is through acceptance. Here’s how this looks like.

The Backwards Law: How To Feel Better By Letting Go

The Backwards Law: How To Feel Better By Letting Go

Trying too hard to feel better and reach your post-breakup goals usually has the opposite effect — and the backwards law proves this.

7 Strange And Unexpected Benefits Of Sadness

7 Strange And Unexpected Benefits Of Sadness

In a world constantly promoting positivity and happiness, it's refreshing to have the benefits of sadness come into the spotlight.

Going No Contact With A Fearful-Avoidant

Going No Contact With A Fearful-Avoidant

Going no contact with a fearful-avoidant is tricky. But this guide will simplify everything so you can mend your relationship faster.

5 Things About Love You Probably Don’t Know But Should

5 Things About Love You Probably Don’t Know But Should

Facts about love that'll help you avoid common relationship pitfalls — be that after you get your ex back or when you find someone new.

5 Myths About Emotions (And What To Believe Instead)

5 Myths About Emotions (And What To Believe Instead)

Here are 5 of the most common misunderstandings or myths about emotions and the truths you should believe instead.

Look At What Your Ex Does (Not What They Say Or Mean)

Look At What Your Ex Does (Not What They Say Or Mean)

Stop trying to figure out the hidden (or not so hidden) meaning behind your ex's words and focus on their actions to gauge their attraction.

32 Glaring Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back

32 Glaring Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back

Learn what influences exes to come back, 32 signs your ex will come back, why focusing on these signs is unhealthy, and what to do instead.

Should I Text My Ex? 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t

Should I Text My Ex? 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t

Texting your ex is never a good idea. It may work for a few, but fail for the vast majority. Here are 10 reasons why it's a bad idea.

Change Your Mind About Getting Your Ex Back

Change Your Mind About Getting Your Ex Back

For those of you who are stressing about getting your ex back, a few simple words of wisdom to shift your perspective.

Where Do You Get Your Validation?

Where Do You Get Your Validation?

Many think it's unhealthy to seek validation. But that's not true. It is healthy (even normal) if you're seeking it from the right place.

Finding Hope After Heartbreak

Finding Hope After Heartbreak

Before one can heal from a breakup, they need to decide that that's something worth doing — they need to overcome their crisis of hope.

A Practical Guide To Modern Dating After A Breakup

A Practical Guide To Modern Dating After A Breakup

A complete guide to dating after a breakup — whether you want to date casually or find true and lasting love.

How To Deal With Uncertainty After A Breakup

How To Deal With Uncertainty After A Breakup

Learn how to deal with uncertainty effectively and grow into a more resilient and less shitty person despite your breakup.

3 Fundamentals Of Being Irresistibly Attractive

3 Fundamentals Of Being Irresistibly Attractive

Getting back with your ex is much easier if you're an attractive motherfucker worth coming back to. Learn what it takes to become one.

The Guide To Setting Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex

The Guide To Setting Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex

Getting your ex back and keeping them gets so much easier if you just learn how to set and keep proper and healthy personal boundaries.

How To Risk Rejection And Admit Uncomfortable Truths

How To Risk Rejection And Admit Uncomfortable Truths

A guide on how to tell your ex you still love them and want them back, and stop pretending you're okay with how things are between you now.

25 Best Books To Read After A Breakup (And Some To Avoid)

25 Best Books To Read After A Breakup (And Some To Avoid)

Discover 25 brilliant books to read after a breakup that will speed up your recovery and help you become a better person.

They Just Don’t Fucking Like You

They Just Don’t Fucking Like You

Your ex isn't gaming or testing you. They don't want you to suffer. They don't have GIGS. They're not confused. They just don't like you.

The Stages And Psychology Of Dumpers Remorse

The Stages And Psychology Of Dumpers Remorse

A breakdown of the stages of dumpers remorse or regret and their psychology. Learn what they are, how they work, and the timelines for each.

Understanding And Managing Neediness

Understanding And Managing Neediness

Learn to understand neediness and manage it better (even overcome it) so it doesn't sabotage your attempts at getting back with your ex.

Your Ex Doesn’t Speak Some Alien Gender-Based Language

Your Ex Doesn’t Speak Some Alien Gender-Based Language

Whether a man or woman, your ex doesn't communicate differently. Communication has, in fact, nothing to do with gender.

8 Signs Your Ex Just Wants To Sleep With You

8 Signs Your Ex Just Wants To Sleep With You

Learn 8 signs your ex just wants to sleep with you, why they want it, and how to navigate the conundrum so you eventually get them back.

How To Get Revenge On Your Ex And, Ugh… Ruin Their Life?

How To Get Revenge On Your Ex And, Ugh… Ruin Their Life?

Learn how to get revenge on your ex and ruin their life in 5 steps. Yes, it is possible. All it takes is some willpower and a cunning plan.

How To Grow From Your Breakup Pain

How To Grow From Your Breakup Pain

Breakup pain is a fact of life for virtually everyone. But there are ways to grow from it. In fact, here are 7 of them, backed by science.

Are You And Your Ex Actually Compatible?

Are You And Your Ex Actually Compatible?

A deep dive into four essential areas of compatibility that determine whether or not you and your ex are meant to be for each other.

How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating

How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating

The complete guide on how to get your ex back after cheating and actually keep them.

6 Signs Your Ex Is Testing You And What To Do About It

6 Signs Your Ex Is Testing You And What To Do About It

Learn what tests are, how they look, the signs your ex is testing you, whether those signs are real or not, how to deal with tests, and more.

5 Reasons Your Ex Is Hot And Cold (And How To Deal With It)

5 Reasons Your Ex Is Hot And Cold (And How To Deal With It)

Learn why your ex is being hot and cold, whether it's a good sign or not, and how to deal with it so they become more affectionate.

The Dark Side Of Breakup Recovery

The Dark Side Of Breakup Recovery

Don't overwhelm yourself with breakup recovery and know that the whole point of it is to come to a place where you no longer need it.

No, Your Ex’s Attraction Isn’t “Blocked” (Clay Andrews Critique)

No, Your Ex’s Attraction Isn’t “Blocked” (Clay Andrews Critique)

Your ex's attraction isn't blocked. They just aren't attracted to you anymore. Here's my reasoning (and critique) of the concept.

The Guide To Healthy Post-Breakup Habits That Stick

The Guide To Healthy Post-Breakup Habits That Stick

Learn the science of habit formation and destruction, as well as building and maintaining healthy habits and breaking unhealthy ones.

8 Stages Of A Breakup And How To Navigate Them

8 Stages Of A Breakup And How To Navigate Them

We all go through 8 stages of a breakup while we grieve. The sooner you recognize in which one you're in, the faster you'll reach acceptance.

How To Rebuild (Or Build) Self-Esteem After A Breakup

How To Rebuild (Or Build) Self-Esteem After A Breakup

Learn what self-esteem is and isn't, what it helps with, and 6 therapy-approved tips on rebuilding (or building) it after a breakup.

How To Overcome Breakup Inspired Limiting Beliefs

How To Overcome Breakup Inspired Limiting Beliefs

A breakup makes us form many limiting beliefs about ourselves that hold us back from recovery and growth. Here's how to overcome them.

Plus Minus Next Journaling

Plus Minus Next Journaling

In my opinion, a better alternative to traditional journaling. Read this guide to learn how to leverage it to speed up your breakup recovery.

How To Get Your Ex Back And Actually Keep Them

How To Get Your Ex Back And Actually Keep Them

It's not about acting attractive that gets your ex back; it's about actually becoming attractive that gets them back.

16 Striking Signs Your Ex Will Never Come Back

16 Striking Signs Your Ex Will Never Come Back

Discover 16 signs your ex will never come back, why focusing on them lowers your chances of reconciliation, and what to do instead.

How Trauma Can Fuck Us Up And How To Heal It

How Trauma Can Fuck Us Up And How To Heal It

Before and after their breakup, trauma is a recurring theme for many of my readers. Here's how it works and how to finally heal from it.

Why I Encourage Getting Sexual With An Ex Quickly

Why I Encourage Getting Sexual With An Ex Quickly

Anyone who's thought about it for more than 30 seconds will realize that getting sexual with their ex quickly is moral and healthy, even sexy.

My Ex Is Ignoring Me And It Bloody Hurts

My Ex Is Ignoring Me And It Bloody Hurts

Getting your ex to stop ignoring you has more to do with letting them go and surrendering to pain than trying to change their behavior.

Time Is Key When Getting Your Ex Back

Time Is Key When Getting Your Ex Back

When you're trying to get your ex back, regardless of when you broke up, giving them a proper and lengthy break from you is key.

Why Do Breakups Hurt (Even When You Wanted It)

Why Do Breakups Hurt (Even When You Wanted It)

Discover the surprising science of why breakups hurt (even when you wanted it), how long yours will hurt, and what hurts the most about it.

10 Life Lessons From A Heartbroken FuckBoy

10 Life Lessons From A Heartbroken FuckBoy

Pain is good. Too much love leads to misery. Time doesn't heal all wounds, and more. Learn 10 life lessons from a heartbroken fuckboy.

The Ultimate Guide To The No Contact Rule

The Ultimate Guide To The No Contact Rule

Learn everything there is to know about the contact rule — the best way to recover from your breakup and get your ex back.