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32 Glaring Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back

32 Glaring Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back

Learn what influences exes to come back, 32 signs your ex will come back, why focusing on these signs is unhealthy, and what to do instead.

How To Find Yourself After A Breakup

How To Find Yourself After A Breakup

Learn three ways you can find yourself after a breakup and get clear on exactly who you are, what you value, and how to move forward.

A Marvellous Misadventure Of The Worlds Biggest Simp

A Marvellous Misadventure Of The Worlds Biggest Simp

Part warning, part soothing balm: a short story about the ridiculous lengths some people go when trying to rekindle their relationship.

Time Is Key When Getting Your Ex Back

Time Is Key When Getting Your Ex Back

When you're trying to get your ex back, regardless of when you broke up, giving them a proper and lengthy break from you is key.

How To Deal With Uncertainty After A Breakup

How To Deal With Uncertainty After A Breakup

Learn how to deal with uncertainty effectively and grow into a more resilient and less shitty person despite your breakup.

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? (The Dos And Don’ts)

Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? (The Dos And Don’ts)

Few relationship questions are as polarizing as if you can be friends with an ex after a breakup. Well, here's my best attempt at answering.

Plus Minus Next Journaling

Plus Minus Next Journaling

In my opinion, a better alternative to traditional journaling. Read this guide to learn how to leverage it to speed up your breakup recovery.

My First Taste Of Maturity

My First Taste Of Maturity

A story about my fuckups when I was trying to get back with my ex and how learning from those fuckups led me to become a less shitty human.

Everything Happens For A Reason, My Ass

Everything Happens For A Reason, My Ass

"Everything happens for a reason." You've probably heard the phrase before. Well, I don't buy into it. It's bullshit. And here's why.

Where Do You Get Your Validation?

Where Do You Get Your Validation?

Many think it's unhealthy to seek validation. But that's not true. It is healthy (even normal) if you're seeking it from the right place.

Let Go Of Your Ex To Get Them Back

Let Go Of Your Ex To Get Them Back

Chasing your ex doesn't make them come back. It only pushes them farther away. Therefore, to get them back, you first have to let them go.

How To Overcome Anxiety When Re-Attracting An Ex

How To Overcome Anxiety When Re-Attracting An Ex

Learn what anxiety is, where it comes from, how it screws you over, and how to overcome it so you can be more confident and less fearful.

5 Reasons Your Ex Is Hot And Cold (And How To Deal With It)

5 Reasons Your Ex Is Hot And Cold (And How To Deal With It)

Learn why your ex is being hot and cold, whether it's a good sign or not, and how to deal with it so they become more affectionate.

Fuck The Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship

Fuck The Signs Your Ex Is In A Rebound Relationship

Learn why the signs your ex is in a rebound relationship may not mean anything and what you should do instead of focusing on them.

They Just Don’t Fucking Like You

They Just Don’t Fucking Like You

Your ex isn't gaming or testing you. They don't want you to suffer. They don't have GIGS. They're not confused. They just don't like you.

How To Deal With Jealousy After A Breakup

How To Deal With Jealousy After A Breakup

Jealousy is something most people who want their ex back feel. And it's a pretty valid feeling to have. Learn 8 ways to overcome it.

The Phantom Ex And The Soulmate

The Phantom Ex And The Soulmate

Learn about the Phantom Ex and Soulmate Syndromes and how to overcome them so you don't remain forever heartbroken and disappointed in love.

7 Strange And Unexpected Benefits Of Sadness

7 Strange And Unexpected Benefits Of Sadness

In a world constantly promoting positivity and happiness, it's refreshing to have the benefits of sadness come into the spotlight.

How To Risk Rejection And Admit Uncomfortable Truths

How To Risk Rejection And Admit Uncomfortable Truths

A guide on how to tell your ex you still love them and want them back, and stop pretending you're okay with how things are between you now.

On Taking Responsibility For Your Breakup

On Taking Responsibility For Your Breakup

Most people never take responsibility for their breakup, and so they suffer perpetually. Learn how to take it, and break the cycle.

Top 16 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

Top 16 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

Here are 16 signs your ex is pretending to be over you, even though they secretly want you back and how to respond appropriately.

Why I Encourage Getting Sexual With An Ex Quickly

Why I Encourage Getting Sexual With An Ex Quickly

Anyone who's thought about it for more than 30 seconds will realize that getting sexual with their ex quickly is moral and healthy, even sexy.

Why Do Breakups Hurt (Even When You Wanted It)

Why Do Breakups Hurt (Even When You Wanted It)

Discover the surprising science of why breakups hurt even though you've wanted your relationship to end all along.

16 Striking Signs Your Ex Is Never Coming Back

16 Striking Signs Your Ex Is Never Coming Back

Discover 16 signs your ex is never coming back, why focusing on them lowers your chances of reconciliation, and what to do instead.

Why Your Ex Moved On Quickly And How To Respond

Why Your Ex Moved On Quickly And How To Respond

Why did your ex move on so fast? What does it mean? How can you best respond? Here's everything you need to know if your ex moved on quickly.

The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No

The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No

Think about this: why ever mend a relationship with someone who is unable, unwilling, or unenthusiastic to help you mend it as well?

On Gratitude And Death

On Gratitude And Death

Breakups suck, but there are many worse things that could happen to you. So be grateful a breakup is the only thing on your plate.

15 Biases That Make You Overestimate Your Ex’s Attraction

15 Biases That Make You Overestimate Your Ex’s Attraction

Here are 15 biases that make you overestimate your ex’s overall attraction and make you want to rekindle things when you perhaps shouldn't.

5 Stages Of A Rebound Relationship (And 3 Truth Bombs)

5 Stages Of A Rebound Relationship (And 3 Truth Bombs)

Learn all about the 5 stages of a rebound relationship, rebound psychology, and the 3 ways everyone misunderstands them.

Should I Contact My Ex Who Dumped Me? (Spoiler: Hell No)

Should I Contact My Ex Who Dumped Me? (Spoiler: Hell No)

should I contact my ex who dumped me? In short, no. You probably shouldn't reach out. And here's why and what to do instead.

My Ex Left Me For Someone Else (4 Uncanny Truths)

My Ex Left Me For Someone Else (4 Uncanny Truths)

Has your ex left you for someone else? Here are 4 weird truths about it, undressed and gutted, in all their beautiful sadness.

The Startling Bullshit Of The 5 Love Languages

The Startling Bullshit Of The 5 Love Languages

The bullshit behind the 5 love languages, uncovered and exposed, by some random blogger you should totally take super-duper seriously.

“Be yourself” Is Terrible Advice

“Be yourself” Is Terrible Advice

Be yourself is terrible advice for most. What you should do instead is work toward becoming the best, most attractive person you can be.

My Ex Is Ignoring Me And It Bloody Hurts

My Ex Is Ignoring Me And It Bloody Hurts

Getting your ex to stop ignoring you has more to do with letting them go and surrendering to pain than trying to change their behavior.

How To Get Revenge On Your Ex And, Ugh… Ruin Their Life?

How To Get Revenge On Your Ex And, Ugh… Ruin Their Life?

Learn how to get revenge on your ex and ruin their life in 5 steps. Yes, it is possible. All it takes is some willpower and a cunning plan.

Sexual Polarity Is Misunderstood And Overrated

Sexual Polarity Is Misunderstood And Overrated

Being more masculine or more feminine won't help you get your ex back faster. Sexual polarity is vastly misunderstood and overrated.

Fuck Indifference (Re-attract Your Ex With This Instead)

Fuck Indifference (Re-attract Your Ex With This Instead)

The idea that you need to be indifferent toward your ex to get them back is not only impossible but even toxic. Here's what to do instead.

The Inferiority Gap

The Inferiority Gap

Learn what really makes someone attractive and capable of permanently getting back together with their ex and what sabotages their efforts.

5 Tenets Of A Negative Self-Help

5 Tenets Of A Negative Self-Help

The post that changed my life.

5 Stages Of Getting Back Together With An Ex

5 Stages Of Getting Back Together With An Ex

Learn the 5 stages of getting back together with your ex and how to leverage them to mend your relationship faster.

You Can’t Make Your Ex Change

You Can’t Make Your Ex Change

You can inspire, educate, and even challenge your ex to change, but you can never make or force them change.

A Realist’s Guide To Finding A Life Purpose

A Realist’s Guide To Finding A Life Purpose

A life purpose is one of the bigger determinants of a person's attractiveness, resilience, and happiness. Here's my way of finding it.

Re-Attraction Placebos

Re-Attraction Placebos

Most "re-attraction science" techniques are logical placebos for creating emotional realities; ways for people to cope with emotional issues.

I Dream About My Ex Every Night (Why And How To Stop)

I Dream About My Ex Every Night (Why And How To Stop)

Learn why you dream about your ex every night, what does it mean, and how to stop dreaming about them so you can function normally again.

Do You Have the Right Attitude?

Do You Have the Right Attitude?

Having a good attitude is crucial when trying to get an ex back. Here's what it looks like, what it doesn't look like, and how to develop it.

Cheerful Nihilism

Cheerful Nihilism

My personal philosophy. I'm happier and more resilient than ever because of it. Maybe you will get the same results if you adopt it.

5 Breakup Fallacies That Subtly Screw You Over

5 Breakup Fallacies That Subtly Screw You Over

Discover 5 fallacies that kill relationships and learn how to manage them to boost your chances of cultivating lasting love with someone.

The Holy Trinity Of Breakup Recovery

The Holy Trinity Of Breakup Recovery

Learn three powerful healing modalities that will turbocharge your breakup recovery and help you feel great again faster than anything else.

How “Fake It Until You Make It” Can Backfire

How “Fake It Until You Make It” Can Backfire

Learn how the popular advice of "fake it until you make it" can backfire when you're trying to get your ex back.

48 Steps To Survive Even The Worst Breakups

48 Steps To Survive Even The Worst Breakups

Follow the steps in this article and you'll feel better about your breakup, regardless of the amount of suffering it brings.

Your Ex Doesn’t Speak Some Alien Gender-Based Language

Your Ex Doesn’t Speak Some Alien Gender-Based Language

Whether a man or woman, your ex doesn't communicate differently. Communication has, in fact, nothing to do with gender.

How To Rebuild (Or Build) Self-Esteem After A Breakup

How To Rebuild (Or Build) Self-Esteem After A Breakup

Learn what self-esteem is and isn't, what it helps with, and 6 therapy-approved tips on rebuilding (or building) it after a breakup.

How To Forgive Your Ex When You Can’t Forget Them

How To Forgive Your Ex When You Can’t Forget Them

You probably won’t be able to forget their wrongs committed against you anytime soon. But what you can do is forgive your ex. Here’s how.

How To Handle Your Ex Blocking You On Everything

How To Handle Your Ex Blocking You On Everything

Just realised, "my ex blocked me on everything"? Unsure what to do? How to get unblocked? Is it even worth trying? Let's investigate.

Don’t Take The Stages Of Anything Too Seriously

Don’t Take The Stages Of Anything Too Seriously

Learn five reasons why you should always treat breakup-related psychological stages as nothing more than a personality test or horoscope.

5 Myths About Emotions (And What To Believe Instead)

5 Myths About Emotions (And What To Believe Instead)

Here are 5 of the most common misunderstandings or myths about emotions and the truths you should believe instead.

How To Grow From Your Breakup Pain

How To Grow From Your Breakup Pain

Breakup pain is a fact of life for virtually everyone. But there are ways to grow from it. In fact, here are 7 of them, backed by science.

Going No Contact With A Fearful-Avoidant

Going No Contact With A Fearful-Avoidant

Going no contact with a fearful-avoidant is tricky. But this guide will simplify everything so you can mend your relationship faster.

You Don’t Deserve Shit

You Don’t Deserve Shit

You don’t necessarily deserve anything after your breakup, good or bad. Instead, here’s a simpler view on breakups to adopt.

6 Signs Your Ex Is Testing You And What To Do About It

6 Signs Your Ex Is Testing You And What To Do About It

Learn what tests are, how they look, the signs your ex is testing you, whether those signs are real or not, how to deal with tests, and more.

Look At What Your Ex Does (Not What They Say Or Mean)

Look At What Your Ex Does (Not What They Say Or Mean)

Stop trying to figure out the hidden (or not so hidden) meaning behind your ex's words and focus on their actions to gauge their attraction.

10 Life Lessons From A Heartbroken FuckBoy

10 Life Lessons From A Heartbroken FuckBoy

Pain is good. Too much love leads to misery. Time doesn't heal all wounds, and more. Learn 10 life lessons from a heartbroken fuckboy.

Finding Hope After Heartbreak

Finding Hope After Heartbreak

Before one can heal from a breakup, they need to decide that that's something worth doing — they need to overcome their crisis of hope.

Are You And Your Ex Actually Compatible?

Are You And Your Ex Actually Compatible?

A deep dive into four essential areas of compatibility that determine whether or not you and your ex are meant to be for each other.

18 Post-Breakup Mistakes That Won’t Get Your Ex Back

18 Post-Breakup Mistakes That Won’t Get Your Ex Back

Discover 18 common post-breakup mistakes people make that obliterate their chances of ever getting back with their ex.

8 Ways To Overcome Anger After A Breakup

8 Ways To Overcome Anger After A Breakup

It’s normal to feel angry after a breakup. It's a key stage to recovery. Here are 8 ways to deal with your anger after a breakup effectively.

Decomplicating Ex-Back Advice

Decomplicating Ex-Back Advice

Learn how getting an ex back is often purposefully drenched in artificial complexity and 7 powerful ways to decomplicate the whole thing.

Does My Ex Miss Me? (Hint: Yes, But It’s Not Like It Matters)

Does My Ex Miss Me? (Hint: Yes, But It’s Not Like It Matters)

If you're wondering "does my ex miss me?" the answer is yes. But does them missing you make it any easier to get them back? Not really.

How To Identify A Healthy Relationship

How To Identify A Healthy Relationship

Is your rekindled relationship healthy or not? Get your answer here, with this eye-opening guide to cultivating healthy relationships.

The Guide To Healthy Post-Breakup Habits That Stick

The Guide To Healthy Post-Breakup Habits That Stick

Learn the science of habit formation and destruction, as well as building and maintaining healthy habits and breaking unhealthy ones.

Change Your Mind About Getting Your Ex Back

Change Your Mind About Getting Your Ex Back

For those of you who are stressing about getting your ex back, a few simple words of wisdom to shift your perspective.

How To Forget Your Ex (The Definitive 10-Step Action Plan)

How To Forget Your Ex (The Definitive 10-Step Action Plan)

Learn 10 simple and effective, therapy-proven tips on how to forget your ex and get your life back on track.

6 Solutions For When You Can’t Sleep After A Breakup

6 Solutions For When You Can’t Sleep After A Breakup

Discover 6 powerful solutions for when you can't sleep after a breakup straight from a retired biohacker and sleep and productivity nerd.

The Ultimate Guide To The No Contact Rule

The Ultimate Guide To The No Contact Rule

Learn everything there is to know about the contact rule — the best way to recover from your breakup and get your ex back.

How To Get Your Ex Back And Actually Keep Them

How To Get Your Ex Back And Actually Keep Them

Learn 6 principles on how to get your ex back the right way and what it takes to cultivate a healthy and lasting relationship with them.

How To Never Get Over A Breakup

How To Never Get Over A Breakup

Learn how to never get over a breakup and become a perpetually heartbroken and miserable person. It's easy if you put your mind to it!

Attachment Theory Explained

Attachment Theory Explained

Learn how attachment theory influences relationships and your breakup experience and how to leverage it to recover and grow faster.

5 Things About Love You Probably Don’t Know But Should

5 Things About Love You Probably Don’t Know But Should

My biggest discoveries about love. Hopefully, they'll deepen your understanding of it, and help you avoid some common relationship downfalls.

How A Rebound Relationship Can Save Your Life

How A Rebound Relationship Can Save Your Life

A rebound relationship is not always a bad thing. Usually, it is a great thing — in the short and long term, and no matter how it unravels.

18 Reasons Why Your Relationship Failed

18 Reasons Why Your Relationship Failed

Breaking up hurts, but why does it happen? Why did your relationship fail in the first place? Discover 18 reasons in this article.

Power In Vulnerability

Power In Vulnerability

True vulnerability is key when you're trying to get back with your ex. Learn what it is and what it can and can't do for you.

The Backwards Law

The Backwards Law

Trying too hard to feel better and reach your post-breakup goals usually has the opposite effect — and the backwards law proves this.

The Guide To Setting Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex

The Guide To Setting Healthy Boundaries With Your Ex

Getting your ex back and keeping them gets so much easier if you just learn how to set and keep proper and healthy personal boundaries.

A Simple Fix: We Broke Up But Still Act Like A Couple

A Simple Fix: We Broke Up But Still Act Like A Couple

Learn about a simple solution to getting back with your ex when you, despite being broken up, still act like a couple.

No, Your Ex’s Attraction Isn’t “Blocked”

No, Your Ex’s Attraction Isn’t “Blocked”

Your ex's attraction isn't blocked. They just aren't attracted to you anymore. Here's my reasoning (and critique) of the concept.

The Art Of Polarization

The Art Of Polarization

Polarization is a concept from pickup and dating literature you can use to get your ex back in a more natural, stress-free, and mature way.

6 Ways To Stop Feeling Lonely After A Breakup

6 Ways To Stop Feeling Lonely After A Breakup

Discover 6 proven principles on how to stop feeling lonely after a breakup and start enjoying your solitude so you can recover faster.

The Staggering Bullshit Of The “Get Your Ex Back” Gurus

The Staggering Bullshit Of The “Get Your Ex Back” Gurus

Learn the truth about the "how to get your ex back" gurus: how they sell fake miracle cures, exploit vulnerabilities, and give shoddy advice.

How To Be Insanely Productive Despite A Breakup

How To Be Insanely Productive Despite A Breakup

A breakup will stifle your productivity. But there are certain universal and tried and tested principles you can follow to boost it.

6 Harsh Truths No One Tells You About Getting An Ex Back

6 Harsh Truths No One Tells You About Getting An Ex Back

Here are six simple yet harsh truths about getting an ex back that no one tells you about. For the most part, because they don't sell.

Why Does My Ex Still Want To Sleep With Me?

Why Does My Ex Still Want To Sleep With Me?

Wondering why your ex wants to sleep with you? Find out 12 reasons why, as well as a game plan on how to respond under every context.

How To Stop Feeling Worthless After A Breakup

How To Stop Feeling Worthless After A Breakup

Many people feel worthless after a breakup. But these feelings don't have to be permanent. You can overcome them. Here's how.

How To Love Yourself After A Breakup

How To Love Yourself After A Breakup

Discover 5 practical and no-fluff ways on how to love yourself after your breakup to heal your broken heart and feel great again.

How To Identify A Toxic Relationship

How To Identify A Toxic Relationship

Were you in a toxic relationship or are your biases tricking you? Get your answer here, with the 12 warning signs of a toxic relationship.

Your Ex Is Not Your Therapist

Your Ex Is Not Your Therapist

Your ex is not your therapist, nor should they be. And if you make them one, you'll be rejected in no time and never get them back.

Covert Contracts: The Subtle Saboteurs Of Love

Covert Contracts: The Subtle Saboteurs Of Love

I’ve noticed lots of people making unconscious covert contracts with their exes, and it’s a big problem that I want to shed light on.

4 Reasons Why Going Back To Your Ex Is A Terrible Idea

4 Reasons Why Going Back To Your Ex Is A Terrible Idea

I know you want to get go back to your ex and rekindle your relationship. Well, you probably shouldn't. And here are 4 solid reasons why.

The Stages And Psychology Of Dumpers Remorse

The Stages And Psychology Of Dumpers Remorse

A breakdown of the stages of dumpers remorse or regret and their psychology. Learn what they are, how they work, and the timelines for each.

3 Fundamentals Of Being Irresistibly Attractive

3 Fundamentals Of Being Irresistibly Attractive

Getting back with your ex is much easier if you're an attractive motherfucker worth coming back to. Learn what it takes to become one.

Understanding And Managing Neediness

Understanding And Managing Neediness

Learn to understand neediness and manage it better (even overcome it) so it doesn't sabotage your attempts at getting back with your ex.

Should I Text My Ex? 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t

Should I Text My Ex? 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t

Texting your ex is never a good idea. It may work for a few, but fail for the vast majority. Here are 10 reasons why it's a bad idea.

A Practical Guide To Modern Dating After A Breakup

A Practical Guide To Modern Dating After A Breakup

A complete guide to dating after a breakup — whether you want to date casually or find true and lasting love.

Radical Acceptance In The Face Of Adversity

Radical Acceptance In The Face Of Adversity

The more you try to rid yourself of suffering, the more powerful it grows. The only way out is through acceptance. Here’s how this looks like.

20 Best Books To Read After A Breakup (And Some To Avoid)

20 Best Books To Read After A Breakup (And Some To Avoid)

Discover 20 brilliant books to read after a breakup that will speed up your recovery and help you become a better person.

How To Get Over Your Ex: 30 No-Bullshit Tips

How To Get Over Your Ex: 30 No-Bullshit Tips

Discover 30 science-based, practical and proven ways on how to get over your ex and regain control over your emotions, identity, and life.

How Trauma Can Fuck Us Up And How To Heal It

How Trauma Can Fuck Us Up And How To Heal It

Before and after their breakup, trauma is a recurring theme for many of my readers. Here's how it works and how to finally heal from it.

I Still Love My Ex (Why And How To Deal With It)

I Still Love My Ex (Why And How To Deal With It)

Do you keep thinking, "I still love my ex!" Learn why and what should I do about it. Surprisingly, it's not as big of deal as you may think.

8 Types of Breakups (And How To Navigate Each One)

8 Types of Breakups (And How To Navigate Each One)

Angry breakup, cheating breakup, sudden breakup, and more. Discover 8 most common types of breakups and learn to navigate each one.

8 Stages Of A Breakup And How To Navigate Them

8 Stages Of A Breakup And How To Navigate Them

We all go through 8 stages of a breakup while we grieve. The sooner you recognize in which one you're in, the faster you'll reach acceptance.

Why Is My Ex Checking Up On Me? (And How To Proceed)

Why Is My Ex Checking Up On Me? (And How To Proceed)

If your ex is checking up on you, they're likely doing it for one of these reasons. Here's how to deal with them and mend your relationship.

I Miss My Ex (Why And How to Stop)

I Miss My Ex (Why And How to Stop)

Learn why you miss your ex and 8 practical ways to stop missing them to finally feel at peace and in control of your life.

6 Healthy Relationship Quirks Most People Think Are Toxic

6 Healthy Relationship Quirks Most People Think Are Toxic

It could be our thinking about our relationship that’s flawed, and not necessarily the relationship itself.

18 Biggest Ex-Back Lessons I’ve Learned in Five Years

18 Biggest Ex-Back Lessons I’ve Learned in Five Years

Here are 18 of the biggest lessons I've learned from helping people (and myself one time) get their ex back for over five years now.

Should I Text My Ex Happy Birthday?

Should I Text My Ex Happy Birthday?

Should you text your ex happy birthday? In most cases, no. That said, there are some rare exceptions to the rule. Read and find out more.

7 Ways To Feel Happy After A Breakup

7 Ways To Feel Happy After A Breakup

Learn the science-based truth on what happiness is, what it isn't, and 7 ways on how to be happy after a breakup, even when it's difficult.

The Social Media Detox

The Social Media Detox

Learn how a social media detox can improve your well-being, increase your confidence, and help you get over your breakup.

How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating

How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating

The complete guide on how to get your ex back after cheating and actually keep them.

Your Ex Is Not Special (No One Is)

Your Ex Is Not Special (No One Is)

Your ex is not special. The faster you get that drilled into your mind, the easier it will be to let them go, rebuild your life, and move on.