should I contact my ex who dumped me? In short, no. You probably shouldn't reach out. And here's why and what to do instead.
A breakdown of the stages of dumpers remorse or regret and their psychology. Learn what they are, how they work, and the timelines for each.
Polarization is a concept from pickup and dating literature you can use to get your ex back in a more natural, stress-free, and mature way.
Attachment theory is not only a good explanation for why your relationship failed, it’s the solution for many of your relational struggles.
Your ex is not special. The faster you get that drilled into your mind, the easier it will be to let them go, rebuild your life, and move on.
Angry breakup, cheating breakup, sudden breakup, and more. Discover 8 most common types of breakups and learn to navigate each one.
Breakup pain is a fact of life. But there are ways to grow from it. In fact, here are 7 of them, backed by science.
Discover 25 brilliant books to read after a breakup that will speed up your recovery and help you become a better person.
A breakup will stifle your productivity. But there are certain universal and tried and tested principles you can follow to boost it.
Learn how to deal with uncertainty effectively and grow into a more resilient and less shitty person despite your breakup.
Trying too hard to feel better and reach your post-breakup goals usually has the opposite effect — and the backwards law proves this.
Few relationship questions are as polarizing as if you can be friends with an ex after a breakup. Here's my best attempt at answering.
Getting your ex to stop ignoring you has more to do with letting them go and surrendering to pain than trying to change their behavior.
Learn how to never get over a breakup and become a perpetually heartbroken and miserable person. It's easy if you put your mind to it!
The idea that you need to be indifferent toward your ex to get them back is not only impossible but even toxic. Here's what to do instead.
Learn what it means when your ex insults you and how to handle the situation in a way that gets you closer to rekindling your relationship.
Learn how the popular advice of "fake it until you make it" can backfire when you're trying to get your ex back.
If you’re not seeing any progress in re-attracting your ex in 1-3 months after the breakup, stop trying to get them back.
Breaking up hurts, but why does it happen? Why did your relationship fail in the first place? Discover 18 reasons in this article.
Discover 7 proven principles on how to stop feeling lonely after a breakup so you can bounce back and feel like yourself again faster.
The post that changed my life.
Re-attraction — that is, the process of rekindling a romantic relationship — is not easy or quick, nor is it what you think it is.
Learn what tests are, how they look, the signs your ex is testing you, whether those signs are real or not, how to deal with tests, and more.
Learn all about the 5 stages of a rebound relationship, rebound psychology, and the 3 ways everyone misunderstands them.
A definitive guide on how to stop missing your ex — or at least how you can miss them less — even if you're going nuts right now.
Learn why your ex is being hot and cold, whether it's a good sign or not, and how to deal with it so they become more affectionate.
Think about this: why ever mend a relationship with someone who is unable, unwilling, or unenthusiastic to help you mend it as well?
The Phantom Ex Syndrome is a nasty delusion many people yearning for their ex fall for. Here's how it works and how to overcome it.
Before and after their breakup, trauma is a recurring theme for many of my readers. Here's how it works and how to finally heal from it.
Discover 16 signs your ex will never come back, why focusing on them lowers your chances of reconciliation, and what to do instead.
Discover the surprising science of why breakups hurt (even when you wanted it), how long yours will hurt, and what hurts the most about it.
Learn the process of finding yourself after a breakup so you can speed up your recovery, feel less alienated, and finally be happy again.
Be yourself is terrible advice for most. What you should do instead is work toward becoming the best, most attractive person you can be.
Here are the 15 ex-back mistakes people make repeatedly. Avoid them at all cost, for they just might cost you your relationship.
Why did your ex move on so fast? What does it mean? How can you best respond? Here's everything you need to know if your ex moved on quickly.
Learn how a social media detox can improve your well-being, increase your confidence, and help you heal from your breakup.
Getting your ex back and keeping them gets so much easier if you just learn how to set and keep proper and healthy personal boundaries.
Learn seven supremely practical ways of coping with regret post-breakup so you can emerge as a more resilient and happier person despite it.
Learn how getting an ex back is often purposefully drenched in artificial complexity and 7 powerful ways to decomplicate the whole thing.
Learn three powerful healing modalities that will turbocharge your breakup recovery and help you feel great again faster than anything else.
Don't overwhelm yourself with breakup recovery and know that the whole point of it is to come to a place where you no longer need it.
Getting over your ex has a lot more to do with overcoming the looming existential crisis that comes post-breakup than anything else.
Learn what habits are, the science of habit formation, as well as how to build healthy post-breakup habits and actually stick with them.
Just realised, "my ex blocked me on everything"? Unsure what to do? How to get unblocked? Is it even worth trying? Let's investigate.
Going no contact with a fearful-avoidant is tricky. But this guide will simplify everything so you can mend your relationship faster.
Anyone who thought about it for more than 30 seconds will realize that getting sexual with their ex quickly is moral and healthy, even sex.
Here are 12 biases that make you overestimate your ex’s attractiveness and propel you to rekindle things when you perhaps shouldn't.
An honest and pragmatic exploration of the nature of happiness and how to acquire it after a breakup, even when all you feel is pain.
Perhaps the reason you can't let go of your ex is because you're scared and selfish — the same way I was years ago.
If you want a lasting and functioning relationship with your ex, you must be somewhat compatible. Here's a one-stop shop guide on the matter.
Sometimes doing nothing is more powerful than absolutely anything you could possibly say or do in a re-attraction related situation.
The science and solutions behind arguably the largest and most common problem people who want their ex back face.
Is your rekindled relationship healthy or not? Get your answer here, with this eye-opening guide to cultivating healthy relationships.
A complete guide to dating after a breakup — whether you want to date casually or find true and lasting love.
For those of you who are stressing about getting your ex back, a few simple words of wisdom to shift your perspective.
Breakups suck, but there are many worse things that could happen to you. So be grateful a breakup is the only thing on your plate.
A few tips for developing self-awareness. The better you become at the skill, the likelier your ex will perceive you as more attractive.
True vulnerability is key when you're trying to get back with your ex. Learn what it is and what it can and can't do for you.
The complete guide on how to get your ex back after cheating and actually keep them.
My personal philosophy. I'm happier and more resilient than ever because of it. Maybe you will get the same results if you adopt it.
Stop paying attention to what your ex says and means. Instead, focus on what they do to accurately gauge their attraction.
You don’t necessarily deserve anything after your breakup, good or bad. Instead, here’s a simpler view on the topic to adopt.
Many think it's unhealthy to seek validation. But that's not true. It is healthy (even normal) if you're seeking it from the right place.
Has your ex left you for someone else? Here are 10 tips on how to deal with it and 4 painful truths about the whole thing.
It’s normal to feel angry after a breakup. It's a key stage to recovery. Here are 8 ways to deal with your anger after a breakup effectively.
If you're wondering "does my ex miss me?" the answer is yes. But does them missing you make it any easier to get them back? Not really.
You probably won’t forget the wrongs committed against you anytime soon. But what you can do is forgive your ex. Here’s how.
The more you try to rid yourself of suffering, the more powerful it grows. The only way out is through acceptance. Here’s how this looks like.
Learn 8 signs your ex just wants to sleep with you, why they want it, and how to navigate the conundrum so you eventually get them back.
Discover 7 powerful solutions for when you can't sleep after a breakup straight from a retired biohacker and sleep and productivity nerd.
Jealousy is something most people who want their ex back feel. And it's a pretty valid feeling to have. Learn 8 ways to overcome it.
Texting your ex is rarely a good idea. It may work for a few people but fail for the vast majority. Here are 10 reasons why it sucks.
Making good post-breakup decisions is a skill you can practice and develop. Here are ten tips for making better ones.
Learn about self-love and discover 7 practical activities to love yourself better after your breakup so you can speed up your recovery.
A rebound relationship is not always a bad thing. Sometimes, it's a great thing — in the short and long term, no matter how it unravels.
Learn why the signs your ex is in a rebound relationship may not mean anything and what you should do instead of focusing on them.
Discover 5 fallacies that kill relationships and learn how to manage them to boost your chances of cultivating lasting love with someone.
Going through a breakup sucks. But thankfully, understanding its stages and how to navigate them makes the journey easier. So here they are.
It's not about acting attractive that gets your ex back; it's about actually becoming attractive that gets them back.
Learn about the nature of self-esteem and a handful of therapy-approved solutions for rebuilding (or building) it after your breakup.
Before one can heal from a breakup, they need to decide that that's something worth doing — they need to overcome their crisis of hope.
Were you in a toxic relationship or are your biases tricking you? Get your answer here, with the 12 warning signs of a toxic relationship.
Learn about the Phantom Ex and Soulmate Syndromes and how to overcome them so you don't remain forever heartbroken and disappointed in love.
A life purpose is one of the bigger determinants of a person's attractiveness, resilience, and happiness. Here's my way of finding it.
Here are 6 of the most common myths about emotions and the science-backed truths you should believe instead.
