As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.
Today’s Idea:
Whether an emotion is good or bad is irrelevant. Good emotions can be just as destructive and dysfunctional as bad emotions. The key is having a good response to an emotion instead of a bad one.
You can be furious or crushed by your breakup, but instead of punching another hole in your bedroom wall, you can channel those emotions into excelling at your job or crushing it at the gym.
Or you can feel excited and relieved when your ex seeks another chance. But instead of applying some skepticism and restraint, you ignore how they treated you in the past and whether or not they changed, immediately take them back, and unintentionally set yourself up for a potential cycle of disappointment.
Today’s Suggestion:
Think of a negative emotion you’re dealing with or have dealt with recently. Now ask yourself, how could that negative emotion be a good thing? What would it take to make it a good thing? Then act accordingly.
In other words, develop the discipline of focusing not on the emotions themselves but on how you respond to them. And try to respond in a way that leads to positive outcomes instead of negative ones.
Today’s Resource:
6 Myths About Emotions (And What To Believe Instead) — it’s funny how often we misunderstand our emotions, even though we’re usually so absorbed in them. So here’s a guide on emotions to set the record straight.
New This Week:
New Articles:
New Videos:
- Don’t Contact Your Ex To Get Them Back (Do This Instead) (most popular this week).
- The Holy Trinity Of Breakup Recovery.
- Does Your Ex Miss You? (And If So, What To Do Next).
As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. While I can’t respond to everyone, I do read everything.
Until next time,
Max Jancar
Get a weekly email with one idea, suggestion, and resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love (with your ex or someone new).