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Could No Contact Push Your Ex Away?

By Max Jancar | Jan 29, 2025 | In: No Contact

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It’s a valid concern…

You’re already dealing with a breakup, and the thought of doing something that might permanently damage your chances of reconciliation is terrifying.

But here’s the uncomfortable truth most “experts” won’t tell you: no contact isn’t pushing your ex away — they’re already gone.

The Reality Of Your Breakup

Let’s get something straight.

Your ex broke up with you. They made a conscious decision to remove you from their life in a romantic capacity. That happened before you even considered going no contact.

When people worry that no contact might push their ex away, they’re operating under the delusion that there’s still some tenuous connection keeping them and their ex together.

There isn’t. The relationship is over. That’s why it’s called a breakup.

What you’re really afraid of is finalizing something that already happened. You’re afraid that by not maintaining contact, you’re somehow confirming the breakup — as if staying in touch keeps the relationship on life support.

Why No Contact Works

Sounds counterintuitive, but no contact really is your best chance at potentially mending your relationship.

According to a survey I conducted with over 4500 participants, only 32% of exes get back together. Of these, roughly 18% have stayed together for over a year after reconciling. And do you know what the majority of those successful reconciliations had in common? A period of complete separation.

Re-attraction-wise, no contact works because:

  1. It gives your ex the space to miss you. When you’re constantly reaching out, you’re not giving them the opportunity to wonder about you.
  2. It allows the fading affect bias to work in your favor. Research shows that negative memories fade faster than positive ones. Given enough space and time, your ex will naturally begin to remember more of the good parts of your relationship.
  3. It prevents you from making desperate, attraction-killing mistakes. Most people sabotage their chances by begging, pleading, or, say, trying to convince their ex to come back.
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What Actually Pushes Your Ex Away

No, it’s not giving them space — it’s doing the opposite.

Constant texting, calling, showing up at places you know they’ll be, social media stalking, emotional manipulation, guilt-tripping, desperate pleas for closure — these are the behaviors that genuinely repel an ex.

These behaviors communicate neediness, desperation, and a lack of self-respect. They reinforce your ex’s decision to break up with you by reminding them of all the reasons they left.

A Much-Needed Reality Check

You can’t push away someone who’s already gone. The fear that no contact will push your ex away is just that — a fear. It’s not grounded in reality, in any solid intellectual basis.

What you’re actually afraid of is letting go. You’re terrified of accepting that the relationship is over because that means facing the pain of loss and the uncertainty of what comes next.

But that acceptance is exactly what you need. Your ex didn’t choose to be with someone desperate and clinging to a dead relationship. They chose to leave that person. If you want any chance at reconnection, you need to become someone different — someone who accepted the breakup and thrived anyway.

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