Is Getting Back With An Ex Actually A Good Idea?

As part of my newsletter, The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.

Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.

Today’s Idea:

Most people shouldn’t try to get back with their ex. That’s because an average person seldom mends things and usually only prolongs their healing through trying.

The only people qualified for the feat are those who a) are unattached to whether or not they get back with their ex, b) are content and happy with themselves, even when single, and c) know that if they do mend their relationship, it would be a healthy one.

Today’s Suggestion:

Take a moment to brainstorm why you would want your ex back. Are you afraid of being single? Are you devastated and lonely without them? Do you think you’ll never find anyone better?

If you keep answering “Yes” to these sorts of questions, it might be time to simply move on.

However, if you keep answering “No” — plus, the a, b and c’s from the idea section above apply — maybe you still could (not should!) mend things. Granted you and your ex are compatible (think worldview, life direction, beliefs, etc.) and are both willing to try again.

Still, please don’t take this little activity as gospel. It’s more like brainstorming. The point isn’t to neccessarily get down to an ultimate decision but just grapple your way to a better idea of whether reconciliation is something you should pursue or not. It’s about getting rough estimates, not ironclad answers.

Today’s Resource:

The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No — one of the best mental models to adopt when trying to figure out if you should give your ex another chance. The idea is that if something isn’t a 100% FUCK yes, it’s a FUCK no. Fun, coarse stuff, check it out!

As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. I’ll do my best to get back to you promptly.

Until next time,
Max Jancar

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