Your Breakup Is Your Responsibility

As part of my newsletter, The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.

Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.

Today’s Idea:

Responsibility is power — especially after a breakup.

When you decide your ex is responsible for your happiness, your self-worth, or your ability to move forward, you hand them all the power over your life. You become a victim waiting for them to text back, to apologize, or to magically fix what they broke.

But here’s the thing: when you decide you’re responsible for your own healing, your own happiness, and your own damn life, you get that power back. You stop being some pathetic ex-dependent loser and start becoming someone who actually has their shit together.

And look, I get it. Blaming your ex feels good in the short run. It’s easier to point fingers than to look in the mirror and ask what role you played in the relationship’s demise. But this victim mentality will keep you stuck in breakup purgatory while your ex moves on with their life.

Today’s Suggestion:

Take responsibility for one specific problem in your post-breakup life that you’ve been avoiding or blaming on your ex.

Maybe you’ve been telling yourself you can’t date again because your ex “ruined your ability to trust.” Or perhaps you’ve convinced yourself that you’re depressed because they left, not because you haven’t been taking care of your mental health.

Pick one area where you’ve been playing victim and flip the script. Instead of “I can’t move on because they hurt me,” try “I’m choosing to stay stuck because facing the pain feels too hard right now.” Instead of “They destroyed my confidence,” ask “What can I do this week to rebuild my sense of self?”

Then actually do something about it. Book that therapy session. Delete their number. Start that workout routine you’ve been procrastinating on. Whatever it is, stop waiting for them to fix what’s broken and start fixing it yourself.

Today’s Resource:

On Taking Responsibility For Your Breakup — discover why taking ownership of your breakup (even when it’s not “your fault”) is the key to healing faster and building better relationships in the future.

As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. I’ll do my best to get back to you promptly.

Until next time,
Max Jancar

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