Mixed Signals Are Actually A Rejection

As part of my newsletter, The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.

Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.

Today’s Idea:

One day, the person you’re attracted to (be that your ex or someone new) is flirty and affectionate, but the next day, they’re distant and aloof. Perhaps they’re even unkind or bitchy.

This is an example of mixed signals: abrupt, unexpected, and often drastic shifts between receptive and unreceptive states, between warm and cold behavior.

How to deal with them? For one, don’t force or coerce the other person to be warmer and more receptive. Turns out, this is the wrong way to go about it. Because the approach completely ignores a simple yet important truth: mixed signals are a rejection.

Here’s what to do instead…

Today’s Suggestion:

Next time you receive mixed signals from someone you’re attracted to, approach it like you’d approach a rejection.

For example, take a step back and calmly and confidently brush them off, back off without getting upset or insecure, and then stop engaging with the other person. Unless they reach out first and about something personal that signals they care about you, don’t talk to them. This should get them to be warmer and more receptive.

However, if they’re still cold and unreceptive afterward, stop trying to make things work between you. It’s not worth the worry and the mental hassle.

Today’s Resource:

5 Reasons Your Ex Is Hot And Cold And How To Deal With It — a complete guide to dealing with mixed signals. Note: as with all my ex-back articles, feel free to apply their advice for non-ex related situations, too.

As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. I’ll do my best to get back to you promptly.

Until next time,
Max Jancar

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