The Brutal Truth About Your Ex

As part of my newsletter, The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.

Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.

Today’s Idea:

When your ex isn’t responding to your texts, flaking on meetups, or giving you mixed signals… The truth is often much simpler and more brutal than you want to admit.

No, they aren’t playing games or testing you. It’s not because they’re confused or suffering from some psychological disorder. It’s not because their friends are poisoning them against you.

They’re simply not that into you right now, and all your mental gymnastics trying to figure out their “real” motives are just sophisticated ways of avoiding this painful reality.

Today’s Suggestion:

The next time you catch yourself spiraling into elaborate theories about your ex’s behavior — why they took 6 hours to respond, why they seem warm one day and cold the next, why they agreed to coffee but “as friends” — stop yourself.

Take a deep breath and ask: “What if the simplest explanation is the right one? What if they’re just not that interested in me right now?”

Then act accordingly. So instead of crafting the perfect follow-up text or planning your next strategic move, step back. Give them space. Focus on literally anything else. That’s it.

Today’s Resource:

They Just Don’t Fucking Like You — a brutally honest reality check about why your ex isn’t reciprocating your efforts when trying to mend things between you two.

As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. I’ll do my best to get back to you promptly.

Until next time,
Max Jancar

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