As part of my newsletter, The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition. Enjoy.
Today’s Idea:
Getting your ex back isn’t some neat, linear journey where you follow Steps A, B, and C and suddenly they’re back in your arms.
Nope… It’s a goddamn mess.
Some days you’ll have breakthroughs that change everything. Other days you’ll grind your ass off and feel like you’re getting nowhere. Sometimes you’ll improve without even noticing. And sometimes you’ll be stuck in limbo, wondering if anything you’re doing actually matters.
The point? Stop expecting some tidy roadmap. Progress in re-attraction is chaotic, confusing, and rarely follows a script. Most people experience multiple patterns at once — breakthroughs mixed with setbacks, slow climbs interrupted by plateaus, genuine growth tangled up with wasted effort.
Understanding this won’t make the journey easier, but it’ll make you less likely to panic when things don’t go according to plan.
Today’s Suggestion:
Take fifteen minutes this week to honestly assess which path you’re on right now. Grab a piece of paper or open a note on your phone and answer these questions:
- Am I experiencing genuine breakthroughs in how I see my breakup, or am I just consuming more advice?
- Am I actually improving myself, or am I just going through the motions to impress my ex?
- Have I been stuck in the same place for months with zero real progress?
- Am I focusing on the right things (my growth, my issues) or wasting time on bullshit (decoding texts, stalking social media)?
Write down your honest answers. No bullshitting yourself.
If you discover you’re stagnating or getting sidetracked, that’s your sign to change course. If you’re climbing that uphill battle or unconsciously improving, keep at it. If you’re hitting a plateau, maybe it’s time to step back entirely for a while.
The goal here isn’t to judge yourself harshly — it’s to get clarity on where you actually stand so you can make better decisions about what to do next.
Today’s Resource:
The Many Paths Of Re-Attraction Progress — a breakdown of the eight different patterns people experience when trying to get an ex back, from powerful breakthroughs to frustrating stagnation and everything in between.
As always, feel free to reply to this email and let me know what you think. I’ll do my best to get back to you promptly.
Until next time,
Max Jancar

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